My therapist once told me that anger can happen when we are tired of being sad. Is this true for you? Does our compounded sadness turn into rage?
Frustration can result from various impositions and limitations on our lives. Anger often stems from unfair treatment, systems and experiences of inequality, repressed emotions, toxic relationships, as well as triggering events and environments. (Like being locked in your house for months on end.)
Whether it be a promise unkept, an inconvenience, or what feels like a personal attack, our anger is often used as a mechanism to protect ourselves. From the outsider’s perspective, our anger simply hurts others.
Lashing out at others does not involve much thought or planning which can lead to the belief that anger’s pathways rarely invite logic. However, anger can be an effective lens to view what we care about most. Our disappointments, sadness, and grief can present themselves through unresolved anger.
Unprocessed anger can lead to being labeled abrasive, irritable, confrontational, explosive, or even dangerous. Looking closely at the origins of our anger can provide insight and personal revelations. Anger management courses can help illuminate what your anger is trying to tell you.
Anger Is A Valid Emotion
Anger is a naturally occurring emotion. In many ways, anger is healthy. One way to measure the intensity of anger is how long it lasts, how it is resolved, and if anger leads to action.
Finding healthy ways to express anger can improve future outcomes. Viewing any situation or circumstance through the lens of anger often amplifies our discomfort and disarray.
Is your anger uncontrollable? Anger and frustration can limit your life and affect the way you interact professionally in the workplace, in your personal relationships, and how you respond to daily inconveniences and personal hardships. In other words, does your prolonged anger satisfy the underlying issue?
When anger escalates to high-risk behaviour and violence, the consequences become a difficult burden to carry. Anger management offers the tools you need to be less reactive and better understand what your anger represents.
The Benefits of Anger Management
Anger management courses can improve your emotional wellbeing and even your physical health. This form of therapy will help you build the necessary skills to communicate how you’re feeling in safe ways that make you feel heard. By joining an anger management group, you will develop a stronger self-awareness and benefit from expressing and comparing your shared experiences with others.
- Communication and Expression of Anger. Learning to communicate your anger is a valuable skill. Anger management groups create a safe space to do this. Taking a three second pause before we communicate our frustration can make all the difference in the ways that we communicate our anger. Practice how to safely express yourself.
- Changing the Narrative. Whatever narrative that may be perpetuating feelings of anger should be revised. For example, your entire life might feel like it is out of your control. Acknowledging that some things are out of your control but that many things are still in your control will help manage your feelings. Did someone intentionally hurt you, or are their shortcomings a reflection of their own daily stresses? Understanding that our expectations can set unattainable standards for ourselves and others can help shift the narrative we tell ourselves.
- Identifying the Undercurrent of Emotions. In anger management there is an opportunity to identity a range of emotions we experience. Do your expectations leave you filled with grief? Does the pressure of your career leave you feeling worried? These emotions can present themselves as anger.
Anger management teaches methods to self soothe, re-center ourselves, and evaluate our perception of the moments we do experience anger. Acquiring these strategies and tools for controlling your anger is a worthwhile form of self-care. Decode your anger by joining an anger management course today.